This is the current dilemma in my wedding planning life... and with the amount of hours i have spent thinking about this (more than i'd like to admit!) it has migrated from the "wedding planning only" portion of my brain to a more prominent spot. Ugh.
Last week, it was something else. And next week, i'm sure, it will be something new. I spend hours and hours of my life planning tiny little--some may say petty--details about a wedding. a wedding--the means by which I get married.
I feel like I should be spending hours and hours of my life planning all the details of how I'm going to be married. That seems like a way bigger deal to me. Married?? How the heck do i do that? I don't know how to be a wife!
Ephesians 5:22-34 tells me:
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives submit in everything to their husbands.
The passage continues talking about marriage, using the image of Christ and the Church. Whether the relationship of Christ and the Church is supposed to the example for how marriage should function, or if marriage should point to the relationship between Christ and the Church, (actually, it's probably both) all I know is that it's a pretty tall order.
And I feel like I should be spending wayyyy more time planning for that than I am the wedding. I want to focus my time planning to be married rather than to get married. And maybe the potential color clashing should be a significantly lower priority. :)
Kim-I'm totally with you. I was talking to Jon about this yesterday. Now, don't get me wrong; I am enjoying the wedding craziness (well, not the hectic-too-many-tasks-to-do-all-at-once thing). I feel like so much time is going into it that I can't really focus on the relationship. I think questioning this is a good thing. It keeps us focused on the marriage...the best part!
ReplyDeleteKim! :) I think even the fact that your desire is to have your focus where it should be shows that your focus IS where it should be (if that makes sense). And I think God will honor that. Don't underestimate how much God has prepared you for marriage--I think you'll make a wonderful wife, much like the kind the Scripture calls you to be.
ReplyDeleteNow, about logistics, if there's anything I can do to help make some of these decisions easier so that you can focus on the important part, let me know. And maybe you can do nice brown suits instead.
I have seen brown and black together and it's actually quite strikingly beautiful. How about brown and black with ivory colored bouquets? They should have brown cummerbunds. ...I'm actually wearing this combo of black and brown today :)
ReplyDeleteWhere will you be living once you're married? I would LOVE to know that you're going to be close to me your first year of marriage because I would LOVE to encourage you throughout that year. I know you'll be more than fine!
thanks for all the comments! i've looked around and seen LOTS of pictures of weddings where black and brown are paired really well!! we're pretty set on brown dresses and black suits or tuxes now. :) pretty exciting... thanks for all the help. :)
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